Self-Care is Self-Love

Hey my loves,

two weeks ago I mentioned in my holiday blog post how important me-time and self-care is for me. So I thought it would only be natural to write about my experience and my journey with you, as well as share some tips with you.

Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.

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Self-care is so important, if you do not take care of yourself you are less likely to be able to take care of others or live your life to the fullest of its possibilities. 2018 has been a year of change for me in so many ways, but especially taking time for myself and realizing that it is important and totally okay to be a little selfish when it comes to your own mental and body health. Self-care helped me to become a much happier and a more positive person, it helped me change my life into a healthy lifestyle.

Self-care is self-love.

If you don’t take care of your mind, your body, how are you suppose to take care of others?

I started with just simply taking care of my skin. I make sure that if I wore makeup that day that I take it off at night, no matter how tired I am. It made a huge difference. After that I incorporated two steps into my evening routine, to let myself feel better about my skin and also make sure to keep the wrinkles away for as long as possible. If you want me to go into detail into my new and updated evening skin care, let me know in the comments and I will. I also do exfoliating and mask session and listen to some soothing music or if I feel like it have a dancing session on my own. Whatever makes you feel calm and happy is the best way for yourself. My tricks might not work for you!

After skin care I started to make sure to clean up after myself more often. Like, pick up my clothes or even doing the dishes more frequently. Trust me, I am not the biggest fan of doing any of these chores, but it will make a difference. And if I get a little messy or don’t do the dishes for two days or three, you know what, that’s okay too. As long as you feel at home and it’s not gross, it’s okay. That’s one thing I learned, too – you don’t have to be perfect in any way.

I am enough. Who I am is enough.
What I do is enough, and what I have is enough.

Another thing I learned is to take things not to personal, everybody is going through their own thing, sometimes their mood or what they say does not have anything to do with you. I learned to choose happiness and not just wait around for it to happen. What I mean with that is: I choose to see the positive, I choose to see the value behind what happened, bad or good. I choose to accept that life is NOT a smooth ride, that I will have bad days, that I won’t stay on my diet every single day. I accepted that life doesn’t need to be perfect and that bad things happen, usually for a reason. And that whatever I or anybody else goes through is part of life.

We can choose how we deal with it, how it affects us, what we make of it. We are the captain of our own lives, we lead the direction it is going in.

I also made the decision to completely change my lifestyle. I eat healthier, I exercise regularly, I make time for my friends and my family and I enjoy the work for college. I choose to see every task, every to-do as a journey, as an experience that further develops me and shapes me to a better person. I choose to stress myself, and I choose to take myself out of situations that are too much for me. But what I will do is, try! So many things this year a new for me in my life, these kind of things used to stress me out, but it doesn’t anymore, because I see it as a challenge that further brightens my future.

I know that all that might not seem as a self-care guideline to you, but this is what has worked for me. Like I said what works for me, might not work for you.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

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Spending Quality Time With My Family & Myself

Hey my loves,

this past week I have been on holiday with my family in the south of Germany. And boy, oh boy, was I in need of a vacation. After writing three papers and preparing an oral exam in just under six week I was mentally exhausted. We spend six days with my family and basically did nothing but relax and we had an absolute luck with the weather – almost 30 degrees.

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Like I said, we didn’t do much, but I took the time to go on a walk by myself just to reflect on the past nine months as well as to get some me-time in. I love the nature here in south-Germany and just took it all in. Spending time with yourself is so important, at least that’s what I learned. But as I am writing this, I can’t wait to get back into things back home.

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The little towns around here are just so beautiful and colorful and especially with the amazing blue sky it looked stunning. I just love it here, although I like the quiet and the little towns, I could actually never live here, you literally have to drive everywhere and there is almost no public transportation in the smaller villages. Therefore it’s a perfect vacation spot!

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The last two weeks of September will be filled with some amazing things, but also will be quite exhausting, so to spend a little quality time with my family was definitely a big must. As well as for my own well being. I came to some realizations and also had a few ideas for my bachelor thesis, which I will probably be start writing in the early months of 2019.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

Coloring My Hair Pink & Realizing Things

Hey my loves,

today it’s going to be a little bit of a personal blog entry. The last couple of weeks were tough for a number of reasons and I struggled very hard to upkeep a positive mindset. And while I was in this situation and feeling down a lot, I looked at a lot of different blogs and YouTube channels from other content creators and fellow bloggers who struggle too and it helped. It made me realize that I am not alone in this.

But who got me through it all were my amazing friends who were and still are there for me, even if that means just making me laugh and not talk about it. Sometimes that’s just right. So a huge shout out and thank you to my friends! I love you girls!

Now, you might notice that I never actually talk about any struggles or at least never go into detail and to be honest that is just because I feel like sharing my problems, my private problems, is not something I want to do on a broad platform. But I kind of feel like I want to change that, but in a dimension where I don’t go into my family problems. But rather my struggles with staying motivated and positive.

A couple of days ago I had one of my moods growing out of struggles that just became too much and I decided I needed a change. And that change was dip-dying my hair pink.

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You might know the saying: A picture is worth a thousand words.

When I look at that picture I see a girl who struggled very hard the day before with all her emotions, a girl who had to put on makeup and get out of the house and pretend everything is okay the next one, because where she was going she couldn’t talk about her struggles.

But do you want to know what I also see?
I see a strong woman, who knows that she is stronger than the overwhelming feeling of pain. I see a strong woman, who puts a lot of people first and loves hard. And I see a woman, who is broken, but stands up every damn time.

I see a human with so many great friends, who are her family sometimes more than her actual one. And I see someone who at the end of the day knows that there is always something to live for, there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Some days may be hard, some days may be great. That is just how life works.

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If you are struggling, if you are having dark thoughts, if you feel like you are alone in this world, know this: You are not alone. You are loved. You are worthy.
Please make sure to talk to someone. Here are some sites:

13 Reasons Why Info & Telefonseelsorge

Talk to your friends, to your family or reach out to stranger. You will be surprised.

What I am trying to say is: With all the social media out there, with all the “happy lives” you see, with all the “happiness” around, you can easily think that it is just your life, that it is just you. But here’s the thing: Everyone has struggles. Some are worse, some are not. But everyone has their own struggles they bear every day. Just because social media says something else – better – portrays something else, know this:

A picture says a lot more than what you can see.
A picture is a moment of pretense.

Yes, some pictures aren’t that, but let’s be real, most of the pictures are. Just remember that is okay too. You don’t have to show everyone your pain, but you also do not have to hide it.

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Now, I am going to sign off and spend the day reading for a term paper and trying not to procrastinate and Netflix instead.

I am very thankful for everyone here on this platform who follows and reads my blog! I hope you all have a wonderful day and spend it laughing!

XoXo,
Jasmin.