What I Learned from my Social Media Detox

Hey my loves,

So, it’s been a while, huh? Now, I wanted to share my experience about my month off of social media with you. I decided at the end of December 2018 that I needed a little break from social media, just to focus on my work for College as well as to concentrate on my mental health. 

Here’s what I did:

  • I rearranged all my apps into folders on my phone and shut down all notifications. The only noise my phone was making was when I got a phone call.
  • Rather than to completely shut of the notifications from WhatsApp and iMessage I let the messages pop up without making a sound, just so that if I were to pick up my phone I would see that somebody messaged me. I didn’t want to cut of contact to my friends, since I am not in school anymore so I rarely see everyone.
  • I also did not go on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or Snapchat for an entire month. I did open Instagram once, but mainly because I’ve forgotten to turn of the notification count on it and got a message and it drove me insane not knowing what was going on. After that I turned that off, too.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Taking time off of social media is extremely hard and you need a lot of self-control. For the first few days I felt so much FOMO (fear of missing out) that I almost quit, but I kept telling myself: “Girl, it’s just pictures, it’s just some stupid news. You don’t have to see everything.” And that actually helped quite a lot.
  • I learned that I cherish a message a lot more when I actually take the time to properly read and answer and that I don’t need to answer right away. That the “sorry for answering so late”-feeling I got before, what just absolute garbage. I am not obliged to answer my messages with a certain time frame, I am not obliged to answer them at all. I answer, because I want to.
  • A lot of social media is fake. A lot of news are fake. A lot of what is shared is absolute nonsense.
  • I miss sharing moments with friends who cannot be there.
  • I like being connected to the world.
  • Being “offline” is the best way to re-center yourself and get a fresh perspective on things.
  • Sometimes a little deflection isn’t the worst, but not always necessary.
  • Put your phone down, when you want to go to sleep.

Have you ever gone a month offline? Tell me in the comments, I would love to know what your experiences were.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

Self-Care is Self-Love

Hey my loves,

two weeks ago I mentioned in my holiday blog post how important me-time and self-care is for me. So I thought it would only be natural to write about my experience and my journey with you, as well as share some tips with you.

Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.

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Self-care is so important, if you do not take care of yourself you are less likely to be able to take care of others or live your life to the fullest of its possibilities. 2018 has been a year of change for me in so many ways, but especially taking time for myself and realizing that it is important and totally okay to be a little selfish when it comes to your own mental and body health. Self-care helped me to become a much happier and a more positive person, it helped me change my life into a healthy lifestyle.

Self-care is self-love.

If you don’t take care of your mind, your body, how are you suppose to take care of others?

I started with just simply taking care of my skin. I make sure that if I wore makeup that day that I take it off at night, no matter how tired I am. It made a huge difference. After that I incorporated two steps into my evening routine, to let myself feel better about my skin and also make sure to keep the wrinkles away for as long as possible. If you want me to go into detail into my new and updated evening skin care, let me know in the comments and I will. I also do exfoliating and mask session and listen to some soothing music or if I feel like it have a dancing session on my own. Whatever makes you feel calm and happy is the best way for yourself. My tricks might not work for you!

After skin care I started to make sure to clean up after myself more often. Like, pick up my clothes or even doing the dishes more frequently. Trust me, I am not the biggest fan of doing any of these chores, but it will make a difference. And if I get a little messy or don’t do the dishes for two days or three, you know what, that’s okay too. As long as you feel at home and it’s not gross, it’s okay. That’s one thing I learned, too – you don’t have to be perfect in any way.

I am enough. Who I am is enough.
What I do is enough, and what I have is enough.

Another thing I learned is to take things not to personal, everybody is going through their own thing, sometimes their mood or what they say does not have anything to do with you. I learned to choose happiness and not just wait around for it to happen. What I mean with that is: I choose to see the positive, I choose to see the value behind what happened, bad or good. I choose to accept that life is NOT a smooth ride, that I will have bad days, that I won’t stay on my diet every single day. I accepted that life doesn’t need to be perfect and that bad things happen, usually for a reason. And that whatever I or anybody else goes through is part of life.

We can choose how we deal with it, how it affects us, what we make of it. We are the captain of our own lives, we lead the direction it is going in.

I also made the decision to completely change my lifestyle. I eat healthier, I exercise regularly, I make time for my friends and my family and I enjoy the work for college. I choose to see every task, every to-do as a journey, as an experience that further develops me and shapes me to a better person. I choose to stress myself, and I choose to take myself out of situations that are too much for me. But what I will do is, try! So many things this year a new for me in my life, these kind of things used to stress me out, but it doesn’t anymore, because I see it as a challenge that further brightens my future.

I know that all that might not seem as a self-care guideline to you, but this is what has worked for me. Like I said what works for me, might not work for you.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.