Self-Care is Self-Love

Hey my loves,

two weeks ago I mentioned in my holiday blog post how important me-time and self-care is for me. So I thought it would only be natural to write about my experience and my journey with you, as well as share some tips with you.

Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.

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Self-care is so important, if you do not take care of yourself you are less likely to be able to take care of others or live your life to the fullest of its possibilities. 2018 has been a year of change for me in so many ways, but especially taking time for myself and realizing that it is important and totally okay to be a little selfish when it comes to your own mental and body health. Self-care helped me to become a much happier and a more positive person, it helped me change my life into a healthy lifestyle.

Self-care is self-love.

If you don’t take care of your mind, your body, how are you suppose to take care of others?

I started with just simply taking care of my skin. I make sure that if I wore makeup that day that I take it off at night, no matter how tired I am. It made a huge difference. After that I incorporated two steps into my evening routine, to let myself feel better about my skin and also make sure to keep the wrinkles away for as long as possible. If you want me to go into detail into my new and updated evening skin care, let me know in the comments and I will. I also do exfoliating and mask session and listen to some soothing music or if I feel like it have a dancing session on my own. Whatever makes you feel calm and happy is the best way for yourself. My tricks might not work for you!

After skin care I started to make sure to clean up after myself more often. Like, pick up my clothes or even doing the dishes more frequently. Trust me, I am not the biggest fan of doing any of these chores, but it will make a difference. And if I get a little messy or don’t do the dishes for two days or three, you know what, that’s okay too. As long as you feel at home and it’s not gross, it’s okay. That’s one thing I learned, too – you don’t have to be perfect in any way.

I am enough. Who I am is enough.
What I do is enough, and what I have is enough.

Another thing I learned is to take things not to personal, everybody is going through their own thing, sometimes their mood or what they say does not have anything to do with you. I learned to choose happiness and not just wait around for it to happen. What I mean with that is: I choose to see the positive, I choose to see the value behind what happened, bad or good. I choose to accept that life is NOT a smooth ride, that I will have bad days, that I won’t stay on my diet every single day. I accepted that life doesn’t need to be perfect and that bad things happen, usually for a reason. And that whatever I or anybody else goes through is part of life.

We can choose how we deal with it, how it affects us, what we make of it. We are the captain of our own lives, we lead the direction it is going in.

I also made the decision to completely change my lifestyle. I eat healthier, I exercise regularly, I make time for my friends and my family and I enjoy the work for college. I choose to see every task, every to-do as a journey, as an experience that further develops me and shapes me to a better person. I choose to stress myself, and I choose to take myself out of situations that are too much for me. But what I will do is, try! So many things this year a new for me in my life, these kind of things used to stress me out, but it doesn’t anymore, because I see it as a challenge that further brightens my future.

I know that all that might not seem as a self-care guideline to you, but this is what has worked for me. Like I said what works for me, might not work for you.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

10 Things That Make Me Happy

Hey my loves,

Finding positivity and happiness these days is really hard. It all seems, in a way, like a very bad dream. A nightmare we wouldn’t want to wish on anyone.

But a couple of days ago I found a video on my timeline on Facebook that made me genuinely happy and sparked the flame of hope for humanity once again. It was a video of a group of people singing ‘Oh Happy Day’ in a mall in Germany. It was set up like a flash mob and they were only using their voices, but that particular song and the genuine happiness you felt during their singing was inspiring. Even though it was just under three minutes it made me smile for the whole day. I believe the world should be filled with more spontaneous happy moments like that. Don’t you agree?

And because I was so inspired by this little moment of happiness I thought I would share the things that make me happy with you. So here they are:

My Friends

Friends are the family you choose. And let me tell you I’m so grateful to the friends I have and all the happy moments I share with them. But it’s more than just the happy times that make me happy. I’m grateful that no matter what is coming my way I know I have my friends who have my back, who make me smile in the saddest of times and who endure my stubbornness.

Rain at the End of a Sunny Day

Well, this might sound a bit crazy but just close your eyes for one second and imagine this: You have been out all day on a field picnicking with your friends. It’s super hot and the air lingers without any wind over the ground. But then you can start to smell something. You start to smell the rain coming. And then it starts to rain but instead of seeking cover you enjoy the cold rain on your heated skin. And it’s such a release that the air feels a little colder and fresher. I love that feeling. Don’t you?

Snow

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Yes, I know it’s summer but I’m listing everything that makes me happy and snow is one of them. And I mean real snow, the kind you build snowmen with and slide downhill or have snowball fights with your friends. The kind where it’s crispy cold outside but yet sunny enough for you not to be freezing. The kind where you just want to be outside and enjoy the day by strolling through the woods. There’s something about this that makes me really happy and even happier when it’s around Christmas time.

Listening, Singing and Dancing to Music

For obvious reasons. Here are some of the songs I love to hear when I’m happy. And sing along like my life depends on it even though I sing horribly. Check out my Spotify Playlist: The Happiness Playlist

Stupid Jokes

I’m the kind of person who laughs pretty much about everything. But some jokes just get me so much that I start to cry whilst laughing and gasping for air. At if that isn’t happiness I don’t know what is.

A Good Book or Movie

Now this might seems to be odd. How can a book or a movie make me happy, right? But it’s not so much the form or genre it is but rather the endless creativity, inspiration or motivation you can get from them. Would you like me to do an entry about books and movies that inspired me a lot? Let me know in the comments.

The Ocean

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There is just something so calming about sitting by a sea or at the ocean especially alone with your thoughts that give me personally so much realization that I can feel whatever I want to feel but mostly just happiness.

The Endless Journey of Finding Myself

When I was younger I thought a main goal in life should be to know who you are. As I’ve grown older I’ve realized something. Just because you are something doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t be the other thing as well. I will never wake up one day and will be able to say I know who I am because I will never know. And I kind of like the idea of that it leaves a door open to the world of the unknown. Not knowing who you are doesn’t mean you don’t know what you want or where you want your life to lead it means you will be able to adjust to anything because you aren’t attaching yourself to any labels or restrictions. And to be able to see it like that makes me happy. Change is good and change is part of your life. And over your lifetime you will change to and that’s completely okay.

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Even though I haven’t done much traveling I do know that it makes me happy. I love adventuring into a new city and explore everything. And getting lost in a city you’ve never been to is somewhat freeing because you never know what you will experience. I love to travel the world one day and see everything and feel everything that there possibly is.

Dreams

To be able to dream is something that makes me very happy. Sometimes you need to escape your reality to create a new one and sometimes they just show you the right way. Dreams make me happy because a dream is not only something you have at night but a goal you can achieve if you work hard for it in the daytime. And achieving your dreams is something very magical and anything magical makes me happy.

And remember you can always choose to be happy. Darkness has no power over you unless you let it have it. Being happy is a choice. I hope you enjoyed today’s entry and if you did make sure to give it a thumbs up. I would really appreciate it!

I wish you all wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.