The Bold Type – Friendship, Dating & Work

Hey my loves,

I love a good TV Show and especially when I can relate to it with real life. The Bold Type is the perfect show for every woman in her 20s and every post-grad college student. The show centers on three women – Jane, Kat and Sutton. Three friends working at a magazine called Scarlet. It focuses on their work life, their personal life and their dating life. The central focus of the show is their endless love for each other.

Recently Season 4 was made available on Amazon Prime in Germany and I could not wait to see it, I actually finished it within two days. The first season got me hooked but every season since we have some new troubles and fun activities these girls do. And I love that the show deals with problems such as how society presents and reflect female needs and want, and most importantly what young professionals have to face these days. Everything from cheating boyfriends, to working hard for a promotion, to love and miscarriages. It shows life how it is – raw and painful but also full of love and friendship. I personally thought that Suttons storyline in Season 4 was something I could personally relate to a lot, she knows what she wants and she goes after it and most importantly she is so honest about it – I admire honesty like that. Yes, she lost a lot and had to go through a lot, but I truly think that to live your best life you have to live out your truth and not someone else and Sutton does that.

Friendship is probably the topic I identify with the most. I always have been in a closer friendship group of three and I love the dynamic it gives to the friendship. No matter what you do or what you need your friends are there for you and the show displays that. In a matter of fact, they display it as I experience it every day – friends are family and that means even if you haven’t seen them in a while you can always, and I mean always, count on their support and love. I love that the girls support each other through everything but also are always honest when the other person does something that doesn’t align with their views (i.e. Kat “dating” the republican lady). It shows the viewers how it should be – as long as you there for each other and as long as you are honest to each other, everything will work itself out.

“You did not fail, my Jane. You just failed. Sometimes you’re going to fail. That is what it means to be a professional writer. Now go write something else.“

The Bold Type also deals with feminism, cancel culture, and racism. In my opinion some of the most important issues of our time. I love that they always include every side – both men and women, gay or straight, republican or democrat. They show each side of the problem. I love that. It’s informative in so many ways, but most of all it is supportive. And it makes you want to inform yourself even more – we love an education TV show over here.

“Keep bringing your passion, it’s how you’re going to make your mark.”

If you haven’t given the show a watch, do. You’re going to love it. While some of the articles Jane writes might be a little over the top, her approach is always real. And that’s what I take from the show: Be who you want to be and love yourself. But I also take with me that it’s okay to struggle and that your work life and personal life might not always link up with each other, but that you always have to celebrate each victory you have.

“Facing the truth is really important. Ultimately the truth always makes us stronger.“

It is also so interesting to see that while each of the characters are so different, I can identify with each. It is very rare that a show actually makes me feel like I could be friends with them or that I find characteristics in them that I see in myself. While I am very far away from being bold, this show gives me the courage to dare and to dream a little more.

You can watch The Bold Type on Amazon Prime: The Bold Type – Season 1 – Season 4

XoXo, Jasmin.

“There isn’t one right way. There are all kinds of love. There’s forbidden love, first love, there’s rekindled love, which can be amazing or terrible depending on whether you’re meant to be together, there’s complicated love, where you’re still trying to figure each other out, and then there’s unconditional love, which it sounds like you have.“

What it means to be a feminist

When Jasmin approached me about this topic – what it means to be a feminist – I pondered over how to approach it; I had nothing to go by but the title. So I thought to myself, why not start this off with a scientific ground on which I could place my opinion? It is the easiest way for me to decide what a feminist is, in general, and what a feminist is to me, specifically.

According to Lois Tyson, English Professor at Grand Valley State University and author of several books about critical literary theory (covering feminist criticism, as well), feminism means fighting against the reinforcement of the economic, political, social and psychological oppression of women. So far, so good.

One of the claims feminists are much-maligned for, though, is that we should not use the masculine pronoun “he” to represent both men and women. For many feminists (again, according to Lois Tyson), using “he” to refer to both sexes suggests that male experience is a standard by which both sexes are evaluated, even though strictly speaking “he” can only refer to males.

A thorn in the side of feminism is the scheme of patriarchy. Patriarchy promotes traditional gender roles, which assign to men the traits rational, strong, protective, while women are considered irrational, weak, submissive. The best example for that way of thinking is the concept of hysteria. We have all heard the cases of women who were diagnosed with the psychological disorder “hysteria”, a condition deemed distinctly female and marked by overemotional and irrational behavior; now, what’s striking about this (to Ms. Tyson as well as me) is that the word hysteria derives from the Greek word “hystera”, which means “womb”.

While you are letting that sink in for a minute, I just want to add that feminist critical theory distinguishes between the term “sex”, referring to our physical and genetic make-up, and the term “gender”, which means the cultural programming as either male or female we undergo when we grow up. It is an interesting approach to look at, considering you are biologically a man or a woman (or something in between), but also that there are behaviors, habits, gestures, looks, that are being described as male or female without having anything to do with the biological or genetic make-up of the person conducting that behavior, habit, gesture or look.

So much for the scientific side. Now, what do I think?

I think I am hesitant to call myself a feminist. I despise the concept of patriarchy, of the so-called traditional gender roles, and honestly, when I learned of what hysteria means in Greek, it pulled the rug out from under my feet. But, on the other hand, I do not care about the pronoun issue; to me, “he” is a pronoun and nothing else. It’s semantics and nothing more.

Furthermore, when I hear the term “feminist”, I picture extremists, like femen, who think writing stuff on their boobs will help fighting patriarchy, but really, I think it doesn’t help much; I heard a German comedian called Maxi Gstettenbauer joke about femen and the fact that he has never read anything the femen activists had written on themselves because he was too busy looking at their breasts. And you know what? I laughed, because it is true.

But the truth is also that I am not doing feminism justice by reducing it to femen and other extremists or the pronoun issue. If you can go on and call yourself a feminist because you consider yourself a strong woman who wants both sexes to have equal rights, equal opportunities, equal payment, then I guess I can consider myself a feminist. The term still has a lingering bad connotation, but my hope is that #HeforShe can change that, and not only for me, but for everyone else, too, masculine, feminine, male, female, whoever cares, whoever wants to listen.

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Feminism and Gender Equality – HeForShe Week

True equality means holding everyone accountable in the same way, regardless of race, gender, faith, ethnicity – or political ideology.

~ Monica Crowley

Hey my loves,

this week is a very special week on The Dawn of Inspiration. Every single day a new blog entry will come online concerning Feminism and Gender Equality in honor of the campaign HeForShe! I am a feminist and I believe in gender equality and I believe that every single one of us has to do something to reach our goal. No matter how small or big our contribution is, it matters that we all pull on the same string: Gender Equality!

Feminism is not only for women. It’s something everyone can participate in, and evolve together, as the first step in the right direction. I see feminism as a tool to achieve that balance and peace.

~ Ani DiFranco

To be a feminist means believing that we can achieve a better and stronger base for our nation today through gender equality. It means building a unity which will present the foundation of a better and stronger society – despite our skin color, ethic, race or gender.

A society in which it does not matter where you come from but how hard you have worked for what you believe in. A society in which you won’t be discriminated because of your skin color or gender but for your individual characteristics and your will. A society which does not discriminates a man as a “wimp” just because he shows emotions. A society which can accept the strength of a woman without having to feel intimidated. A society which is build on acceptance. An acceptance which allows every person to be whatever he or she likes to be.

Feminism does not mean hating men, it does not mean „woman are the stronger sex”! Feminism means unity and equality. Feminism means to be free in the unity. Gender equality is a controversial “must” for the stability of a strong society. A society can only exists with men and women. A „without“ cannot exist, because a society could not exists with just one gender.

We need gender equality! We need feminism! We need HeForShe!

Society as a whole benefits immeasurably from a climate in which all persons, regardless of race or gender, may have the opportunity to earn respect, responsibility, advancement and remuneration based on ability. ~ Sandra Day O’Connor

Please let me now, what you think! Tweet me: The Dawn of Inspiration!

Xoxo, Jasmin.