What I Learned from my Social Media Detox

Hey my loves,

So, it’s been a while, huh? Now, I wanted to share my experience about my month off of social media with you. I decided at the end of December 2018 that I needed a little break from social media, just to focus on my work for College as well as to concentrate on my mental health. 

Here’s what I did:

  • I rearranged all my apps into folders on my phone and shut down all notifications. The only noise my phone was making was when I got a phone call.
  • Rather than to completely shut of the notifications from WhatsApp and iMessage I let the messages pop up without making a sound, just so that if I were to pick up my phone I would see that somebody messaged me. I didn’t want to cut of contact to my friends, since I am not in school anymore so I rarely see everyone.
  • I also did not go on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter or Snapchat for an entire month. I did open Instagram once, but mainly because I’ve forgotten to turn of the notification count on it and got a message and it drove me insane not knowing what was going on. After that I turned that off, too.

Here’s what I learned:

  • Taking time off of social media is extremely hard and you need a lot of self-control. For the first few days I felt so much FOMO (fear of missing out) that I almost quit, but I kept telling myself: “Girl, it’s just pictures, it’s just some stupid news. You don’t have to see everything.” And that actually helped quite a lot.
  • I learned that I cherish a message a lot more when I actually take the time to properly read and answer and that I don’t need to answer right away. That the “sorry for answering so late”-feeling I got before, what just absolute garbage. I am not obliged to answer my messages with a certain time frame, I am not obliged to answer them at all. I answer, because I want to.
  • A lot of social media is fake. A lot of news are fake. A lot of what is shared is absolute nonsense.
  • I miss sharing moments with friends who cannot be there.
  • I like being connected to the world.
  • Being “offline” is the best way to re-center yourself and get a fresh perspective on things.
  • Sometimes a little deflection isn’t the worst, but not always necessary.
  • Put your phone down, when you want to go to sleep.

Have you ever gone a month offline? Tell me in the comments, I would love to know what your experiences were.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

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2018 Review and Why I’m Taking A Break From Social Media

Hey my loves,

Last day of 2018: Can you believe it? And what a year it has been.

2018 changed a lot for me, I changed a lot. I grew immensely with each challenge I have tackled this year and I have managed to find a new way of living a much happier lifestyle. Each struggle made me stronger and each new chapter enriched my life so much.

I am also thankful for all the people in my life. My best friends, who I consider family, are always there for me and lift me up. They are right beside me through the good and the bed. And my family, my heart, who endlessly support me in everything that I do. I have so many wonderful people in my life and I couldn’t be more grateful for that.

A lot has happened this year, I wrote a lot of papers for College this year – and I mean A LOT. But I also found out that I am actually pretty good at writing. I also found a job which has me filled with so much joy and excitement, because I am constantly learning new things and get to experience a lot of things I wouldn’t have before. I also met some of the nicest colleagues and boss you could ever ask for. And I am super excited for all the things that will come up next. I also spend a lot of time on myself, eating healthier, exercising, making better choices. All of which lead to a much, much happier me.

Now I am not the biggest believer in New Year’s resolutions, so instead I always set myself goals that I want for the next few years that I can achieve and which I truly want to do. I won’t share my 2019 goals with you, those are my personal ones. But I am sharing with you something I will do for myself starting with January 1st. Social Media is a big part of my life, so is this blog and for that matter my phone. But I don’t want my life on these platforms. I want a life in real life. So in order to see if I have forgot how to actually life I will take some time away from Social Media and my phone. 

I decided to mute all my notifications, put all my apps except the ones I actually need for my lifestyle (like phone, calendar, mail and to a certain degree messages) into a folder and don’t touch them. First I was going to set myself a time frame, but I think I just have to see how long I can live with the FOMO. It’s going to be hard not to see what everybody is up to or answer all messages right that second. But I believe for myself, especially for my mental health, this will be good. This also means taking a break from my blog, I will probably still write some pieces, or write down ideas, but I won’t publish anything. At least for the entire January. This also gives me much more extra time in January since I have a million to-do’s for College and I want to focus my attention on these things. I obviously will write about my experience, but I don’t know when this will be. I don’t want to put any pressure on me, I just want to see, how I change and how my lifestyle is changing.

Would you do it with me? Like and share this entry and participate in your own way. And get back to me with your experience when you’re ready.

Guys, thank you for an amazing year for my blog and I wish you all a happy New Year, may all your dreams and wishes will come true!

I wish you all a wonderful night!

XoXo, Jasmin.

How to avoid Christmas Blues

Hey my loves,

in today’s blog post I am going to talk about how avoid Christmas blues or specifically how I try to avoid it. I feel like Christmas time is such a busy period that you sometimes forget to take care of yourself. I do that a lot even when it is not Christmas, so I always need to remind myself of that.

Take care of yourself

Take time out of your busy schedule even if it is only 30 minutes, but those 30 minutes will make a difference. I like to take this time to take care of my skin or listen to a podcast, but I usually do both. What I also like to do is baking, it is so soothing to me and always takes my mind of everything. Check out my favorite Christmas cookie recipe right here.

Spend quality time with the people you care about

Another thing I like to do to avoid getting the Christmas blues is to make time for my friends and spend quality time with them, which is why it is so important to me that we hold our annual Christmas Dinner. I wrote a little blog post about how to organize a Christmas Dinner Party, which you can check out here. It is so important to spend time with your friends during this time, most of my friends are like family to me, so it’s always extra special.

Watch what you eat & Exercise

Most of the time we don’t necessarily connect our food habits with our mood, but unhealthy foods can actually have a big impact on that. So one tip of mine would be to watch what you are putting into your body. I am not saying you shouldn’t indulge in all the Christmas foods, but I believe that a good balance is important. I also like to stay active during this time, whether it is a workout or just a long walk. 

What do you do to avoid Christmas blues? Tell me in the comments, I would love to know.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

What to Write in a Christmas Card

Hey my loves,

in today’s blog post I am going to share some of my tips and tricks on how to write and what to write in a Christmas card. I love to write Christmas cards, because I love to personalize them to the individual person.

Happy Holidays!

I always like to start with a simple “Happy Holidays” or “Merry Christmas!”, I mean that’s why they getting a card in the first place so why not put it first. 

I then proceed with personalized messages for the receiver of the card. For my friends I like to thank them for the year and maybe even reminiscence on a few inside jokes. But I do not overfill the card, no one wants to read a novel. For family I usually just tell them how much they mean to me and how much appreciate them. As for any other associates I like to keep it casual and may even write like a little Christmas saying instead.

Christmas Sayings

May the magic of Christmas fill each corner of your home & heart!

Wishing you a season of gladness, a season of cheer, and to top it all off – a wonderful year!

It wouldn’t seem like Christmas if we didn’t get in touch, and send the season’s greetings to the folks who mean so much.

May this Christmas end the present year on a cheerful note and make way for a fresh and bright New Year. Here’s wishing you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

What do you write in your Christmas cards? Let me know in the comments, I would love to know.

Wishing you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

How I Deal with Stress – An Honest Answer

Hey my loves,

a couple of weeks ago I talked about how I managed to write three papers simultaneously, as well about my personal development story, so I thought it was about time that I talk about how I deal with stress. This also comes at a time where a lot of things are happening and I am under a lot of stress.

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As I am writing this I am laying in my bed dealing with the last bits of my cold that knocked me out an entire week and has put me back with work for college a lot more than I would like. The past three, almost four, weeks haven been stressful on so many levels. About three and a half weeks ago I had a bad fall, which ended with me in a cast on my foot and pain in my arm. My doctor prescribed me rest and I took it, for three days instead of the two weeks he told me to. But I am almost healed now and do not have much pain anymore, so all is good. But that kinda just started a mountain of new stressful things. As college has started again in the beginning of October I found it hard to find a balance between eating right, taking time for myself, working out, as well as maintaining the oversight about the work I have to do for College. So instead of using my new learned tools I tumbled down a path of unhealthy choices and no-time spend for myself which ultimately led to me being irritable, in a bad mood and not taking care of myself enough. The stress level only got higher when I was not able to workout because of my fall.

Well, long story short, PMS kicked also in, harder than it had been the last six months and I was, and for most of the week, I still am a mess full of anxiety attacks and mood swings, but weirdly enough this week of being sick with the cold is turning everything around again. Last week I turned 27 and I had two of my best friends with me and we had the most fun I had in a while. We had a dance session for almost an hour and it just felt so good to feel my body and to exercise, quite frankly. But the day after, I got sick and hit with it hard. But instead of letting myself get dragged down by it even more I decided enough is enough, the moments I feel better I do something for myself. In the past two days, where I have been feeling a lot better, I even had mini dance session of ten minutes for myself. And, let me tell you, how good that felt, even though I was exhausted after it and fell straight asleep.

Now, this post is supposed to be about how I deal with stress, but the truth is: I do not know. Because every time I think I have an answer to it, something new comes up and throws me off-balance. But what I do know is that if you keep a positive attitude a lot of the things might not be as bad as they seem. And sometimes it is okay, not to be okay.

But one thing I want to make sure is that my PMS is not getting as bad next time as it was this time, and in order to do so I have to make sure to put my health, mentally and physically, first again. As soon as I am no longer sick, I will get back into a routine workout situation and as of this week I am trying to figure out a way to incorporate healthy lifestyle and food choices into my busy life again. Basically, I started WW again, just to keep myself motivated to eat healthy and to eat at all. Most of my days I simply forget or am too tired to cook or eat at all, and that’s not a lifestyle I want to live.

So I guess my tip for you would be to take it one step, one day at a time and just realize that you do not have to be on your A-game all the time that it is okay to put yourself, your health and your mental health first.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

27 Things I learned in my Twenties

Hey my loves,

on Friday the 9th of November I turned 27 years old. So I thought why not share some things I learned in my 20s so far. I thought this would be quite fun to share with you guys, since I’m sure we all have different learning experience during our 20s.

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  1. Make Mistakes.
  2. Try everything once.
  3. You cannot please everyone.
  4. It’s okay not to be okay.
  5. Taking care of yourself is important.
  6. Being honest and open does not make you less strong.
  7. Appreciate the people in your life that care.
  8. Don’t ever stop dreaming.
  9. Don’t be afraid of new things.
  10. You can handle more than you think you can.
  11. You stronger than you think you are.
  12. Being an adult sucks, but it’s also the best time of your life.
  13. You’re never too old to have fun.
  14. It’s okay to talk about mental health.
  15. It’s okay to have an opinion.
  16. Love yourself.
  17. If there’s a will, there’s a way.
  18. Create a life you believe in.
  19. Feeling lost comes with the territory.
  20. You don’t have to have a plan for your life.
  21. Don’t care about what other people think.
  22. If you feel like giving up, don’t. You might surprise yourself.
  23. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  24. All things happen for a reason. You might not see it right away.
  25. Patience can be learned.
  26. You create your own happiness.
  27. Being single isn’t a failure.

What are some of the things you have learned? Tell me in the comments I would love to know. I hope you enjoyed today’s entry.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.