Guest Post: Lavish Frugality

The Oxymoron

Lavish frugality. What a pair of words. The first time I mentioned it to a friend, he instantly said this is an oxymoron.

An oxymoron describes two contradicting terms put together. We have all stumbled upon it before. At school, at university, in advertising or when we have placed an order with our favorite Asian restaurant: “I’d like to have chicken sweet and sour chicken, thank you.”

Additionally, the terms lavish and frugal do not seem to go together at first.

Many understand frugality not only to be modesty and a cautious behavior, but also celibacy and the renunciation of certain enjoyments. As opposed to this, there is the concept of “lavish lifestyle”. Especially, nowadays this term has a negative aftertaste and stands for the frivolous and overly generous consumption of money, things and resources. Those who have a lavish lifestyle live very richly and wastefully. So how do these two terms fit together?

Cheers for enjoyment

What is minimalism?

If you look at Instagram, Pinterest and the lifestyle magazines, you will quickly notice that the current trend is towards minimalism and sustainability. There are two great documentaries about minimalism on Netflix and sustainability is receiving much-needed attention. It seems as if these two lifestyles always went hand in hand. When it comes to minimalism, you actively ask yourself:

“What do I really need to be happy?”

It is not about reducing your possessions to a certain number of things or living in an empty apartment if possible. It is about making room for the important things in life and sorting out everything that is not important or even burdensome.

What is sustainability?

When it comes to sustainability, your own consumption and lifestyle are optimized so that you live as resource-efficiently as possible. It is a matter of aligning one’s actions in order to preserve the natural regenerative capacity of the systems involved in satisfying one’s own needs.

Lavish frugality

The idea of “lavish frugality” is not about saving money come hell or even throwing money down the drain. It is not about minimizing or adding to your possessions. It is more about balance.

After having dealt with the topics of minimalism and sustainability, after several unsuccessful clean-ups and tidy out actions à la Marie Kondo, I had to realize I love beautiful things. It just makes me happy to sit on the couch in the evening and look at my wall full of well-stocked bookshelves. If this makes me happy, why should I reduce myself to twenty books?

Please do not get this wrong. I am still reducing, and it makes perfect sense and joy surrounding yourself with the things that make you happy and that you use. However, the joy of life should not suffer. Not everyone is a minimalist. Nevertheless, that is not bad either, because sustainability is also possible if you have a lavish lifestyle – if you define it correctly!

The sustainable, lavish lifestyle

We are surrounded by advertising all day long, whether on television, social media or by friends and acquaintances who arouse desires and needs in us without knowing it. Hence, everyone’s spending is likely somewhere between what we can afford and what we think we are owed. For everyone, money is synonymous with work and drudgery (more for some, less for others). Moreover, students in particular know the feeling of being torn between their studies and part-time jobs, only to start their professional life with student loans debts.

Create new, repair or buy used

The solution is that what you cannot afford financially, can be recreated, repaired or used for little money.

 There are now countless ways to add very beautiful items to your wardrobe without having to immediately spend huge amounts of money or invest in fast fashion. A capsule wardrobe is fine, but if you want to expand it, you can do that. In addition, if you switch to second hand, you also get the opportunity to breathe a second life into a beautiful piece and at the same time, you protect the environment. Those skilled enough can upgrade their favorite pieces themselves with a needle and thread. Therefore, you almost have an individually tailored piece of clothing for a few euros.

Books, whether for private reading enjoyment or for studying, can also be bought second-hand or borrowed from the library, if you know in advance that you will not necessarily have to have them in hard copy on the shelf later. You can also join so-called book hikes, in which a book is passed on to the next person after reading, so that it travels from person to person and hopefully gives you hours of joy.

Thanks to the corona lockdown (regardless of whether it is number one, two or five); we are forced to spend more time in our own four walls. You can have cabin fever and the furnishings lose their appeal. But isn’t this the perfect time for a self-painted picture that will be placed prominently over the sofa, as if you had bought it for several thousand euros in a gallery? Existing pieces of furniture can often be upcycled in a few simple steps and with little material and transformed into truly unique pieces. Each of us has seen at least one Ikea hack and thanks to YouTube and Pinterest there are no limits to the imagination of turning our own furniture catalog home into a dream house à la McGee & Co.

Not just consumption

However, lavish frugality is not just about shifting consumption to more sustainable and therefore cheaper alternatives. But to actively enjoy one’s life. Sit on a park bench with the first warm rays of sunshine with your homemade coffee and just watch people passing by? Having digital lunch breaks with your best friend or having a movie night with your loved one in the evening, including self-made popcorn. Why not just celebrate the nice idleness and sit on the balcony with a beautiful teacup (bought on eBay) and just read your favorite book again? Or treat yourself to a lush bouquet of self-plowed flowers.

Find the balance

In lavish frugality, one finds the balance between luxury and the essential. Instead of snacking on a pack of cookies every day (absolutely no problem in lockdown, trust me), just go to the patisserie and buy a wonderful, but sinful piece of cake. Alternatively, go to the trouble of strengthening your bed linen and ironing it, only to have the feeling of hotel bed linen in the evening when you slip under the sheets.

A cheap wine tastes much better from the crystal glasses bought at the flea market and you instantly feel like Lady Mary from Downton Abbey.

True luxury costs little or nothing – and you do not have to miss anything. It is enough if you think a little more about what kind of priorities you are setting. Even then, it is possible to behave freely and decadently at any time, even without overdrawing your own budget or painfully missing the missing millions in your bank account.

Lavish frugality means that you reinvent the rules for yourself, let yourself drift, create and develop without exploiting the environment and its available resources or having to miss anything.

Feel free to enjoy life to the fullest!

Guest Blogger: Julia

Check out Julia’s Blog: www.zeitistrelativ.com

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Cooking with Jasmin – Indian inspired Chicken Curry with Naan Bread

Hey my loves,

a couple of weeks ago my bestie and I wanted to try out a new recipe and we decided it would be super fun to cook an Indian inspired chicken curry dish. My bestie really wanted to try to make her own Naan bread so we figured what better to eat with Naan then a chicken curry. We looked online for a couple of recipes and ultimately ended up with a mix of a few different ones. I personally do not like coriander so we skipped it in our recipes, but you can always add it to your version of the recipe.

Chicken Curry Recipe

This recipe serves around four people and is great with rice and a side of naan bread. We really enjoyed it and I can personally say it tasted a lot better the next day and we think it is crucial to marinade the chicken longer than an hour, I think 12 hours would be perfect for the softness of the chicken and taste.

Like I mentioned we added some rice and self-made naan bread. We really wanted to make our own an we used the following recipe:

If you happen to try these recipes out let me know what you think. I would love to know.

XoXo, Jasmin.

3 Things I do to avoid Lockdown blues

Hey my loves,

I don’t know about you but I am so over this whole pandemic life. I literally just want to go outside and do something fun with my friends and have a nice little holiday. But, that seems so out of reach and to avoid getting to sad or depressed about the situation I have found a few things I like to do to feel like I am doing something. Obviously it is so important to social distance and follow the rules that apply in your country, but these are things I am pretty sure you are allowed to do nearly everywhere.

No.1 : Make sure to have a routine.

Mindsets, habits and routines are the building blocks for success toward your wellness goals.

In the beginning of this pandemic I thought why have a set routine it does not matter. Well, let me tell you: It sure does. Having a set routine changed my whole mindset and made me realize that I can keep busy while social distancing and having everything that is somewhat fun closed. I even wrote a little entry a while ago, so make sure to check it out: Getting back into a routine during Lockdown

A routine is different for everybody. You have to find what works for your lifestyle. Ask yourself these questions:

  • What do I want to achieve with my routine?
  • When do I have time for this routine or is my routine a time management skill?
  • Is my routine the same every day?
  • Why is it important to me to have a set routine?
  • What is my lifestyle? Are you working from home? Are you a student?

As soon as you get answers to these questions you can start to create your routine. For me, my routine changes throughout the week and months. For instance, I recently started a new job, am writing a paper and am on my semester break for at least five more weeks. On the days I work from home I like to give myself a little around an hour to get ready, set everything up and eat breakfast. On days I go into the office I get up, get ready and eat all in around 30 to 45 minutes, just because I like being ready and out faster. On days I do not work I like to sleep a little bit longer and take an hour to an hour and a half to myself in the morning. I do little chores right away in the morning and make sure to check of any to do’s that involve my apartment. I also use the off-days to write a blog entry and mostly I use my days of to work for my paper. Sundays are my free time day, if I have something I need to get done I’ll do it, but if it can wait until Monday than I won’t. I let myself sleep in, go for a walk, self care and watch movies.

No.2 : Learn something new.

Learning is forging new connections. Every time you learn something new, your brain physically changes.

Dr. Joe Dispenza

I love to learn and I love to educate myself on new topics. In the beginning of the pandemic I made it a goal of mine to learn a lot about the field I want to work in as well as use every opportunity my Uni offers which help me add more skills to my CV. I recently visited a Workshop about intercultural project management and it was not just fun but also so informative. I can highlight recommend doing this. Find something to do that is new and exciting to you, there are so many offers online that are free.

For example, if you like to learn more about marketing Google offers a great free program: Basics of Online Marketing

Here you can even get a certificate at the end which you could add to your CV. But mostly I would look what your university offers, those are mostly included and are free too.

No. 3: Go for walks.

Some beautiful paths can’t be discovered without getting lost.

Erol Ozan

With gyms mostly closed and home workouts getting boring I love to go for a walk with a friend (where I live we are allowed to see one person that does not live in the same household). And let me tell you, fresh air and sun on your skin feels so good, especially when you’ve been inside most of the day.

A couple of days I went on a 7km walk with a friend. We went to a walking trail not too far from where I live and it was such a beautiful day. I had muscle pain the next day but it was definitely worth it. I had so much fun and we were able to catch up a lot. It’s also super nice just to explore parts of your own city. You can always google or ask friends and family for recommendations or just start walking and see where you end up.

What are you doing to keep yourself busy? Do you have any new things you are doing now? I would love to connect with you and chat.

I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

XoXo, Jasmin.

All TV Shows I have seen on Netflix & Prime Video in 2020

Hey my loves,

so with Covid-19 still happening and pretty much everyone still in lockdown I thought it would be a fun thing to look into my watchlist of 2020. I wanted to see which TV shows I have seen on Netflix as well as on Amazon Prime. And instead of telling you why they are great or awful I would just give you a list of my must-see’s, nice for background noise, reality tv and something fun.

I ranked my must-see’s in the order I would suggest it to you. All the others are in no particular order. Have you seen any of these TV Shows? Let me know in the comments. I am also always open for suggestion for new TV shows, so hit me up if you know any good ones I might have missed last year.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

My New Living Room

Hey my loves,

a couple of weeks ago I mentioned that I moved and I thought now would be the perfect time to share my new space with you. If you want to catch up on my move, check out my moving blog post: Moving into a new apartment

The only room I would consider completely done is my living room, which is why I am sharing this room first with you. It took a while to get everything together and here and there I would like to change some things, but I will eventually do that this year or next. There’s no rush, because right now I am absolutely in love with my living room space.

I got my prints and most of my frames from Desenio and I absolutely love the gallery wall above the couch, I really want to add some more maps of places I want to travel to, but only if I have been there, I think that would be such a fun thing to add on in the on-coming years. My ladder shelf, the pink chair and my marble and gold side table are all from Wayfair. All plants except the big one on my side table are from IKEA, as well as my book shelf. My couch I got from Otto and my TV Stand is from Baur. My pillows are from H&M Home. The vase and dry flowers next to my TV are from Depot, the lavender smells so good. And I also recently got a new TV and am in love with it – it truly feels like a cinema in my living room when I’m watching TV. I got the Samsung Crystal UHD 55″.

If I haven’t mentioned a design element you would like to know where it’s from just hit me up in the comments or DM me on my Insta.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!
XoXo, Jasmin.

Guest Post: The Power of the Internet – An Opinion on Assassination Nation

The internet is a two-faced jerk. It can make us feel loved and precious and hyped up to soaring heights, or it can leave us lonely and hated and at the absolute bottom of a bottomless pit of rage. It has the unique power to universally unite us as people. It has the historically unparalleled power of dividing us and creating problems where there were none before. And the extreme ambivalence I feel when thinking about this two-faced jerk results from the fact that embracing the good side means the acceptance of the bad side. As I open my door wide to the beautiful face of the internet, the ugly face sneaks in behind my back while me and the beautiful face hug it out in the doorway. I invite one face into my house, but both faces come in.

The internet’s good side is its magical power to connect people from all over the world. It enables me to see and hear things from remote cultures that I would otherwise never come in contact with, thus broadening my horizon, forming me into a more complete, more tolerant and educated being.

The internet enables me to share my creativity with others in the hopes of making their day a little bit better. And the very best thing about it is that entire generations can share their experiences with one another, be it through memes, or tweets, or TikToks, sending out into the world the very clear message that we all need to hear: you are not alone.

Especially now, in pandemic times, the internet and its ability to connect us are more important than ever. I know a video call with my friends will never replace their actual presence in my living room, but it offers me something of a reprieve until I can hug them in person again. And seeing my exact experience and feelings summed up in a meme created by someone from the other side of the world on Facebook reminds me, again, that I am not alone in this.

So the internet’s best side brings people together to create something beautiful. However, there is a dangerous downside. The troublesome thing is the reason why people get together, because it can be to share love or creativity, but it can also be in order to unite against someone else and ostracize them.

The internet’s bad side that piggybacks on the good side is the way in which it has changed the way we communicate with one another. It has completely deconstructed the notion of facts, as David Mitchell explained on the Graham Norton Show: thanks to the internet, the truth may never be recognized as such again. There is no certainty of factual evidence on the internet, because the internet has given everybody the chance to share their thoughts on any matter, and the result is an endless web of facts mingled with opinions that are then misunderstood as facts and again mingled with opinions until nobody can actually comprehend what is true and what is not. There is no way to share your thoughts without them being misconstrued by someone else, and that is one of the big downsides to the internet’s ability to give everybody a voice: people think that because they have the opportunity to express their opinion, their opinion is automatically important, and it is not. Your opinion on a subject needs to be informed, or it is completely useless, but this idea of information is rendered more and more obsolete.

The result of this desire to share your thoughts on any subject with anyone simply because the opportunity is there has led to what I would like to call audience entitlement. Everyone obviously is entitled to their thoughts and opinions. Your mind cannot be controlled, it is yours and yours alone. The problematic thing about the internet’s open platform of opinions, however, is that people appear to have developed the feeling that because they have an opinion, it needs to be listened to. And while this feeling of being entitled to an audience in itself might not be inherently problematic, it very much becomes so once it leads to what Joe Rogan once called “recreational outrage.” People become habitually upset about things they read on the internet and, thanks to their audience entitlement, share their outrage and demand it to be taken seriously. If enough people share their outrage about the same thing on social media, their combined outrage is bundled into a shitstorm. And there have been outrages that were completely justified. The internet pools and combines worldwide forces to fight against injustice and that is beautiful. The issue is that it has become habitual, recreational, for people to try and kickstart shitstorms. In the process, we become desensitized to our own outrage and its consequences. And this desensitization is the bad consequence of the beautiful unification of the people.

The bad is created out of the good, then. The question I have come to ask myself is: is the good created out of the bad? Do they condition one another, or is it a one-way street that ends in doom and destruction? I have to admit I am not sure I have a definite answer, but Sam Levinson’s 2018 film Assassination Nation opts for the pessimistic view that yes, it is a one-way street, yes, it does end in doom and destruction, and that is because it is human nature. It is the human way of handling things, and it has been since colonial times, if not before that.

The film uses the analogy of the witch hunt to make this drive to destroy explicit. The city in which the plot takes place is Salem, Massachusetts, which is historically known for the Salem Witch trials, during which women were burnt at the stake or otherwise executed over accusations of witchcraft that the accused failed to disprove. What the film makes clear through the connection created between the history of witch trials and the postmodern process of the online shitstorm is that both kinds of hunts are not about the accused’s actual culpability. They are about scapegoating.

In Assassination Nation, a group of teenaged girls are blamed for a hacker’s leak of personal information that concerns the entire town of Salem. The girls are actually innocent, but once the town has settled on them as the guilty parties, nobody cares to prove or disprove the assumption of their guilt. And as one Salem citizen after another becomes the victim of a shitstorm concerning their private data (now open for the whole world to see), these victims become the perpetrators of a new shitstorm, namely the hunt for witches. As the hunt for the four girls escalates into a massacre, people die, blood is spilt, and Salem becomes a battleground for a war that started online, but has entered the real world. The fascinating thing is that the film takes the idea of the recreational outrage of online shitstorms, which are a safe, sanitized form of hunting someone without ever having to actually face the victims, and places it in the analog world. An execution in the street is an online shitstorm taken to its logical extreme. As such, Assassination Nation is the satirical, over-the-top conclusion to the trend of online outrage. The internet brought us together for us to share love, but the film proposes that it inevitably transforms the world into an assassination nation.

I watched the film because I saw it in Amazon Prime, and I had no fleshed-out expectations; Wikipedia described it as a black comedy thriller, so I might have expected some laughs, but to be quite honest, it was a horror film to me. You can easily read Assassination Nation as a slasher, with the four girls at the center as the final girls and the entire town as the killers. Reading it like that makes the expectations heaved upon girls by patriarchal structures in the postmodern age even more explicit. The most horrific thing, however, must be the fact that these girls are innocent. They have done literally nothing to deserve the town’s persecution, and it does not matter at all. Nothing makes you feel powerless like telling the truth and being called a liar. The girls have the truth on their side, but we live in the age of alternative facts, so really, who cares? Apparently, we don’t want the truth. We just want someone to blame.

As such, I can’t really find humor in the film. It scares me too much. I am aware of its satirical exaggeration in the Tarantino-esque escalation of bloody violence, but it felt too real for me to be satire. Peter Bradshaw of the Guardian described the film as “social media revenge porn,” which best describes what Assassination Nation presents to the audience: the consequences of lives lived on social media that then (literally) bleed into the real world. Ultimately, the film seems to suggest that the two forms of life (online and offline) do not mix. The intersection between online and offline is also a one-way street. The real world barely affects the online world, but the online world has massive consequences for the real world.

That being said, I really enjoyed Assassination Nation for its artful inclusion of social media into the medium of film. I always enjoy films that explore the limits of the medium, and the internet is so much a part of our lives that we will cease to exist without it.

Miri

Guest Blogger: Miri

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Things I want to achieve in 2021

Hey my loves,

In today’s blog post I am going to talk a little bit about what I want to achieve in 2021. At the end of 2020 I was thinking about a new years resolution list, you know a typical thing. But, because of how awfully wrong everything went in 2020 and especially with everything that was on my list for 2020 I decided I am going to do a list of things I want to achieve that were out of context with the pandemic and would not rely on my leaving my apartment (even though travel and more dating will always be on the list when this whole thing is over). 

So I started making a small but impactful list that would set my mindset for 2021. These are all things I hopefully can achieve and that will enrich my life.

I want to finish all of my exams for my master degree.

I have two papers left and one oral exam before I start writing my master thesis. My plan is currently to write one paper this winter term and then one paper in summer, as well as take the oral exam in my summer term. Hopefully it all works out, so that I can start working on my thesis around October 2021.

I want to read more books.

Especially, I want to read more books in the field I want to work in. I love to educate myself further besides my studies, especially because I want to end up working in the field of marketing. So for this winter break I researched some books of which I want to read at least 2 to 3 and educate myself further on topics of marketing, content marketing, social media marketing and writing.

I want to be better organized and all in all cleaner in my way of living.

Now, that I have a bigger space and enough storage space I want to keep everything organized, clean and in place. I am trying to tidy a bit everyday and have a cleaning schedule that I like to follow as best as I can.

I want to include better and healthier foods into my eating habits.

With lockdown and the move I had been eating pretty crappy and irregular the past couple of months. And I also got so lazy when it got to cooking. In the beginning of my move I did not have a working stove for almost two weeks so I had to order so much food. As of the end of January I am back on my grind with eating low-carb and a lot of veggies. I feel so much more energized and motivated, its so crazy how food has an effect on your mood.

All in all it might not seem much, but I personally think a smaller list is always better. You can much rather add things along the way instead of not feeling the high of ticking something of it.

What are some of your goals you want to achieve this year? Let me know.

I hope you are all happy, healthy and excited for your goals of 2021.

XoXo, Jasmin.

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Moving into a new apartment

Hey my loves,

On Wednesday I talked a little bit about a new lifestyle change: I have moved out of my first apartment into a bigger space right across my old one. But why, you might ask?! Well, I needed a little bit more space and I desperately needed an office space. In the next coming weeks I will share some parts of my apartment with you, but for today I thought it would be fun to look at my old space, as well as give you a sneak peak of my new apartment and the process of getting it and renovating.

My Old Apartment

My old space had two rooms, a kitchen and one bathroom. It had a really decent space and for my very first apartment after moving out from home it was absolutely perfect and I have loved the four years I have lived there, but it was time for an upgrade. While I cherish all my memories and experiences I had in this apartment I was ready for a bit more space. Especially with this whole pandemic and spending so much time at home I realized that I needed a separate room for my office. I loved the fact that my old space had to rooms that were both around the same size and were big enough to fit all of my stuff. But as I grew older and more busy I realized I needed a bigger space.

My New Apartment

My new place has three rooms, a kitchen and one bathroom. And I am in love with this place. It is in the same neighborhood as my old space since I did not want to move away from my home base especially during a lockdown. It is a perfect space for me and has plenty of space for all of my things. I finally have a room dedicated to my office, which has made the biggest change in my day to day life. I think moving was the best decision I made in 2020 and I am super happy I was able to complete that chapter of my life at the end of 2020.

The Process

I started thinking about moving in early 2020, when the world was, well, normal, I guess… I had already looked at some places that were in a completely different city and also was going to look at some spaces in the city where I study, but then, well the world changed and I quickly realized that moving into a bigger city away from family was not an option I wanted to choose. But I still grew more and more unhappy in my old space, not only was I feeling like I couldn’t grow anymore, I also had some noise issues. So I figured, you know what, let’s look at bigger spaces in my home town. I was looking at places in different parts of the city when I saw a space that was right down the road from me.

The place I looked at was a top floor apartment and had to be renovated in order to be livable, it was a cute space but definitely not what I was looking for. But, while I was talking to my realtor I mentioned that I don’t really have a timeline for when I want to move and that it was important to me that it was a 3-bedroom space because I desperately need an office. She mentioned a neighbor of myself who was going to move out of a 3-bedroom apartment, but that it had to be fully renovated since it hadn’t been updated since the 70s or 80s, so it would take like three months or so before I could move in, after he moved out which was like a month away at that point (funny story: he actually moved into the 2-bedroom unit next to my old place).

Well, I went to my neighbor and asked if I could see the place because I was thinking of renting it and he let me. And I FELL IN LOVE. It was exactly what I wanted, not to big, but big enough, 3-bedroom and light and airy. I can watch the sunrise and sunsets and every room is so light. I immediately contacted my realtor and told her I wanted that place. Like I mentioned it was going to be around 4-5 months until I could move in, but I was okay with that. Well, things quite didn’t work out as planned. While I had planned for the move around August or September of 2020, because of delays for deliveries and corona rules the moved got pushed and pushed. I ended up getting the keys in the middle of November and started my least on December 1st. 

Those couple of months were the LONGEST, but worth it every wait. I can’t wait to share the space with you guys and create lots of memories here. Oh, and I can’t wait to throw a big housewarming, but that has to wait until Covid is over..

I hope you are happy, healthy and looking forward to all the good things of 2021.

XoXo, Jasmin.

Life Update – Where I have been

Hey my loves,

Long time no talking. Sorry for being quite MIA the past couple of weeks, but a lot – and I mean A LOT – has happened the past three months. So I thought before I get back into the swing of things I would do a little catch up with you guys.

The past couple of months have been super emotional and stressful, but I am so content with everything right now that I feel like it is time to get back into blogging. I just needed some creative space from everything so I could write what I love again and also love doing it again. After almost seven years of blogging you kind of get into a slump, but I think I finally got out and feel ready to tackle it.

This week is the last week of seminars for the winter term and after this I am writing a paper, but besides that, for the first time in a while, I have some time to improve myself and work on things I love. My plan is to start my master thesis some time in the next winter term 2021/2022 and before that I have two papers and an oral exam left, so I got a little way to go. I can honestly say that this past semester was super stressful but I could handle this whole online thing – and more work load thing – quite good. I finished a lot of my courses, I think at the end I did six finished courses. So, YEY me! 

But, the past couple of months have been so stressful. In the middle of the semester my new apartment got ready for me to move in (it was planned for the break between last summer and winter semester, but it got moved so much). So I ended up moving in the last week of November, which would have been absolutely fine if I hadn’t had to do put wallpaper in all of the rooms and paint all the walls and ceilings. But thanks to my uncle and friends I got it all done very quickly – I think it took like three or four weeks in total. But while all the renovating was happening I still had classes and was working. So it was a lot to do and I didn’t really have the time or head space to produce content for my blog, or for Instagram for that matter.

Now as I am back to blogging I will try to post two blog entries every week – I will post on Wednesday and Saturday at around 11 am. I have a lot of fun blog entries coming up: I will show you my new place and take about some good food I have been cooking during lockdown. So stay tuned!

I hope you are all doing well and are happy and healthy! I see you on Saturday with a new blog post. 

XoXo, Jasmin.

The Bold Type – Friendship, Dating & Work

Hey my loves,

I love a good TV Show and especially when I can relate to it with real life. The Bold Type is the perfect show for every woman in her 20s and every post-grad college student. The show centers on three women – Jane, Kat and Sutton. Three friends working at a magazine called Scarlet. It focuses on their work life, their personal life and their dating life. The central focus of the show is their endless love for each other.

Recently Season 4 was made available on Amazon Prime in Germany and I could not wait to see it, I actually finished it within two days. The first season got me hooked but every season since we have some new troubles and fun activities these girls do. And I love that the show deals with problems such as how society presents and reflect female needs and want, and most importantly what young professionals have to face these days. Everything from cheating boyfriends, to working hard for a promotion, to love and miscarriages. It shows life how it is – raw and painful but also full of love and friendship. I personally thought that Suttons storyline in Season 4 was something I could personally relate to a lot, she knows what she wants and she goes after it and most importantly she is so honest about it – I admire honesty like that. Yes, she lost a lot and had to go through a lot, but I truly think that to live your best life you have to live out your truth and not someone else and Sutton does that.

Friendship is probably the topic I identify with the most. I always have been in a closer friendship group of three and I love the dynamic it gives to the friendship. No matter what you do or what you need your friends are there for you and the show displays that. In a matter of fact, they display it as I experience it every day – friends are family and that means even if you haven’t seen them in a while you can always, and I mean always, count on their support and love. I love that the girls support each other through everything but also are always honest when the other person does something that doesn’t align with their views (i.e. Kat “dating” the republican lady). It shows the viewers how it should be – as long as you there for each other and as long as you are honest to each other, everything will work itself out.

“You did not fail, my Jane. You just failed. Sometimes you’re going to fail. That is what it means to be a professional writer. Now go write something else.“

The Bold Type also deals with feminism, cancel culture, and racism. In my opinion some of the most important issues of our time. I love that they always include every side – both men and women, gay or straight, republican or democrat. They show each side of the problem. I love that. It’s informative in so many ways, but most of all it is supportive. And it makes you want to inform yourself even more – we love an education TV show over here.

“Keep bringing your passion, it’s how you’re going to make your mark.”

If you haven’t given the show a watch, do. You’re going to love it. While some of the articles Jane writes might be a little over the top, her approach is always real. And that’s what I take from the show: Be who you want to be and love yourself. But I also take with me that it’s okay to struggle and that your work life and personal life might not always link up with each other, but that you always have to celebrate each victory you have.

“Facing the truth is really important. Ultimately the truth always makes us stronger.“

It is also so interesting to see that while each of the characters are so different, I can identify with each. It is very rare that a show actually makes me feel like I could be friends with them or that I find characteristics in them that I see in myself. While I am very far away from being bold, this show gives me the courage to dare and to dream a little more.

You can watch The Bold Type on Amazon Prime: The Bold Type – Season 1 – Season 4

XoXo, Jasmin.

“There isn’t one right way. There are all kinds of love. There’s forbidden love, first love, there’s rekindled love, which can be amazing or terrible depending on whether you’re meant to be together, there’s complicated love, where you’re still trying to figure each other out, and then there’s unconditional love, which it sounds like you have.“