My Personal Development Story

Hey my loves,

Last week I talked about my final year of College and mentioned my personal development story. I thought I would touch on that a little more and tell you what I mean with that. 

This year has been a year of change for me. I do not even know where I should start, but I guess I start with the beginning.

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I always said that I felt comfortable in my skin and while to a certain degree that was true it changed in the last three years. I was getting to a point where life just seemed to throw bigger and bigger rocks at me. And last year towards the end of it, I decided that it is enough.

I didn’t want to live in a world where I felt displaced and out of order yet alone not in control and I started to look what I can change and I found myself at a mountain of possibilities. So instead of changing my surroundings or dive into something that I would not have been able to do, I decided in order to better my life: I HAVE TO BETTER MYSELF FIRST.

So I did, am still doing.

I decided that I would start with seeing everything as a challenge that I can do, instead of letting myself be muffled by anxious feelings. It was hard at first and to some degree still is, so I would say it’s a work in progress. Everything that was thrown at me I started to handle with these thoughts in my mind:

Will it affect my life in two years?

If it does not matter in two years, why make a big scene? Just accept that something is going wrong or not going the way you imagined it to be. Learn that not everything is in your control.

Will it matter next week? Next month? Next year?

This is basically the same thing as I said before, but in a short period of time. Is it just bad right now? Or will it be bad for a longer time? What can I change? How should I deal with it?

What can I do to make the situation more comfortable for me?

Obviously this won’t make everything go away, but I have found that talking about why I am uncomfortable or that I do not wish to do a certain things is more likely to be accepted by my friends/family than I ever thought. Just be honest to yourself and to the people in your life. They won’t judge you for what you’re feeling, even if they don’t understand it.

What can I change about it that I can do right now?

Is there a way that I can change the situation and if so what do I have to do to make a change? Should I maybe start with myself? Or does the problem lie somewhere else?

While early on in my life I would have had a freak-out or a desperate crying session I now surround myself with tools to handle these types of situations. Sometimes a big old breathing in session is all you need, trust me. Just give yourself a couple of seconds to think about it, to let it sink in. It might not seem as bad a couple of minutes later.

Another thing I changed in myself is my body.

And that started with my mind. While I’ve always been comfortable in my skin, I always felt like an outsider simply because of my weight. But here’s the thing, if you don’t care about it, it’s more likely that everybody else won’t care about it either. What I mean with that is, I let myself be strung back by my weight, I pushed myself down and had thoughts like “Well they wouldn’t like me anyway!” or “Nobody that looks like me would do that”.
So I changed my mindset, I told myself:

Your weight does not define the person you are. You do.

Your weight is not holding you back. You are.

And I tried to figure out what I can do to change my thinking. And for me it was pretty clear that in order to change my thinking I have to lose some weight, because, truth be told, I did not feel comfortable in my skin anymore. In order to lose the weight, in a healthy and continuous way, I had to change my lifestyle. I want to be as healthy as I can. I have not set myself a goal weight, because I believe that the number on the scale should not define the way you feel. I don’t count calories or follow a diet or at least no longer. But that is a story for another time. Instead, I am going to the gym and portion control my food and I chose healthier options.

My body has changed, my mind has changed.

I’ve lost over 20 pounds so far. I am proud of my achievement, but what I am more proud of is that I managed to stay on track, that even though some day might not be a good and healthy day, that as long as I am active and live 80 percent of my time healthy that it was okay. I am a happier, more confident and a more positive person: and I did that.

I got a job beside my studies, I can barely sit still and I do much more with my friends than before. I pulled myself out of hole and plastered it up. And I am still working on it, on me. I have so many more things I want to do to change my life around, but I will do it one step at a time. For now, what I am doing is working and in a year’s time, who knows where I’ll be at.

I hope I could give you somewhat of a good insight into my personal development story. If you have any question, feel free to ask them in the comments or DM me on Instagram or Twitter. You’re also more than welcome to shoot me an Email if you prefer that.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

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My Fall Makeup Favorites as a Busy College Student

Hey my loves,

fall is my favorite season of the year, I just love everything that comes with it – cozy sweaters, warm tea, changing leaves, cold and crispy days filled with sunshine and of course Halloween. But for most of the time, I’m at college or work so in order to fully live out my fall love I have to try to incorporate it into my makeup routine. And you know what? Fall is perfect for makeup, first of all, it’s not too hot that you sweat it off and also you get away with wearing a dark lip at daytime, which is already a perk in itself.

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So today, I will share some of my staples for fall and what I pretty much use on an everyday basis. My makeup usually has to stay on for a long time, everything from 8 to 12 hours sometimes even more, so long-lasting makeup that doesn’t wear off to easily is very important to me. Especially because I’m not big of a touch-your-makeup-kinda-gal, it just does not work for me and my skin type.

Prep & Prime

For my base I like to start with a hydrating moisturizer and on days where my skin feels extra dry I even add one to two drops of face oil. I use the L’Oréal – Hydra Genius Moisturizer for sensitive skin, and, as for my oil, I use The Ordinary – 100% Organic Cold-Pressed Moroccan Argan Oil. The primer I use is also from The Ordinary, it’s the High-Adherence Silicone Primer – I love that primer so much, it really makes a HUGE difference in the longevity of my makeup.

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I usually like to wear a little foundation and concealer on an everyday basis, because my skin gets quite irritated during the day, so to even out my skin tone I use the L’Oréal Paris – Infaillible Foundation Stick and the L’Oréal Paris – Infaillable 24h Concealer Pomade. I usually blend it in with a damp beauty blender by Real Techniques. I also always spritz my face with one to two pumps of NYX – Dewy Finish Setting Spray. I used to only use it at the end, but using it with the “liquids” in the beginning makes the makeup even more long-lasting. To set my foundation and concealer in place I use the Maybelline – Masterfix Baking + Brightening Powder in Banana all over my face. If you don’t have a yellow undertone in your complexion the translucent powder might be a better choice for you.

Shape, Color & Highlight

As for my bronzer and blush I like to stick to non shimmery based products, because I do really think that matte products last a lot longer. I use the Benefit – Hoola Bronzer and the Maybelline – Dream Matte Blush in Flirty Pink. Most days I skip highlighter, especially on my really long College and work days, simply because I do tend to get a little bit oily and shiny throughout the day, and to avoid being a complete shiny mess I tend to skip highlighter. But for my shorter days I always use the MAC – Mineralize Skin Finish in Soft & Gentle.

Brows & Eyes

My eyeshadow routine changes everyday. It usually depends on how much time I have in the morning, where I’ll be at and how long I’ll be out. But for basic days I like to use one single eyeshadow all over my eye blended out and also a little bit of it under the eye. For that I am currently using the L’Oréal Paris – Havana Camila Cabello Eyeshadow in Control. But, on days where I feel a little more daring, I like to pop on some color and for that I am currently using the NYX – Ultimate Shadow Palette in Brights. As for my mascara I always use a waterproof one, I love the L’Oréal Paris – Paradise Extactic Mascara. For my brows I usually stick to the L’Oréal Paris – Brow Artist Xpert in Cool Blonde and just fill them in with a light hand.

To set my phase I use the NYX – Dewy Finish Setting Spray, again.

Lips

Now, my lip color changes everyday. But here are my top 3 choices at the moment:

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What are some of your favorite fall makeup products? I would love to know. I hope you enjoyed today’s entry and if you did I would be super happy about a like or a share. Also if you want to keep updated with me follow this blog or my Instagram.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

My Last Year of College

Hey my loves,

In today’s blog post I am going to touch on some things I felt while entering the last final year of College being a bachelor degree student. While I have been studying for a lot longer than the usual student, I have quite a lot of mixed feel considering my last year.

But first, let me get started with the beginning of my college journey.

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In October 2013 I’ve started college, I had English as my mayor and History as a minor. I quickly realized that History wasn’t for me, so I switch to Linguistics. After failing miserably for three consecutive semesters, always with the hope of getting better, I decided to switch one last time. I applied for German as my mayor at my College and I got in.

Since October 2015 I am studying German as my major and English as my minor and that has been one of the best decision I have made in my college experience. Not only was I finally able to just do the courses I was good in, but I also got motivated again to go to College and actually attended the courses. After my first semester I fell ill, and had to dial back on College stuff so that I wasn’t able to finish in the regular time. But I think that’s okay, I believe your health is more important than that.

After I got better I decided to change my life around. To change the things that I believed made me sick as well as trying to be a happier and healthier person. I also wanted to use my motivation for school to try and find out what I eventually want to do with my degree. And in the beginning of this year, I decided that I am not willing to leave College just yet. That I enjoy it. So I decided that I want to do my master as well.

Now that my plan for after my bachelor’s degree is all set, I want to touch on what I’m feeling about my last year as a student. As a bachelor’s student – at least.

I’m feeling mixed feelings about it to be completely honest with you. While I’m excited for a new and fresh start I’m also sad, since I will probably leaving my College I am at right now, and I have built so many great friendships and memories here. But I guess with evolving you kind of have to leave some things behind. I’m also thankful, thankful for the opportunities that have arisen out of my experiences, thankful for the person I am today and much more.

This year, a lot of things changed for me. Personally and College-wise, but it only got better. I didn’t start my journey thinking I would end up being, well happy?! I never knew what I wanted, or at least I told myself that. And now, while I learn what my strengths are and I step out of my comfort zone, I realize what I can and what I want to do. All possibilities are open for me, I just have to work hard enough and realize that if I want something it won’t just fall into my lap, that I actually have to work to achieve something. And while doing so it is the greatest feeling in the world if you actually reach your goals.

My last summer was filled to the brim with work for College. I had to write three papers simultaneously as well as prepare an oral exam. While the old-me would have crumbled under the pressure and probably would have given up, I have risen above it, and even surprised myself by doing it all, with just one minor freak-out right before the submission of the last two papers (which FYI was in the same week).

The upcoming semester will be filled with a lot of courses for my minor and I can’t wait for them. I only have two papers left and a test and hopefully (fingers crossed!) I am able to register my bachelor thesis in early 2019. I also started working at my College as a student helper, and so far I’ve been really enjoying it and I feel like it is a good opportunity to gain some work experience as well as learn new things and step out of my comfort zone.

My last year of College will hopefully be filled with lots of fun, new experiences and will hopefully be as much part of my journey as the past nine months has been in my personal life. Would you like me to touch on my personal journey and my development in the past nine months? Let me know in the comments or by liking this post and I will write a blog post about it.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

Self-Care is Self-Love

Hey my loves,

two weeks ago I mentioned in my holiday blog post how important me-time and self-care is for me. So I thought it would only be natural to write about my experience and my journey with you, as well as share some tips with you.

Self-care means giving yourself permission to pause.

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Self-care is so important, if you do not take care of yourself you are less likely to be able to take care of others or live your life to the fullest of its possibilities. 2018 has been a year of change for me in so many ways, but especially taking time for myself and realizing that it is important and totally okay to be a little selfish when it comes to your own mental and body health. Self-care helped me to become a much happier and a more positive person, it helped me change my life into a healthy lifestyle.

Self-care is self-love.

If you don’t take care of your mind, your body, how are you suppose to take care of others?

I started with just simply taking care of my skin. I make sure that if I wore makeup that day that I take it off at night, no matter how tired I am. It made a huge difference. After that I incorporated two steps into my evening routine, to let myself feel better about my skin and also make sure to keep the wrinkles away for as long as possible. If you want me to go into detail into my new and updated evening skin care, let me know in the comments and I will. I also do exfoliating and mask session and listen to some soothing music or if I feel like it have a dancing session on my own. Whatever makes you feel calm and happy is the best way for yourself. My tricks might not work for you!

After skin care I started to make sure to clean up after myself more often. Like, pick up my clothes or even doing the dishes more frequently. Trust me, I am not the biggest fan of doing any of these chores, but it will make a difference. And if I get a little messy or don’t do the dishes for two days or three, you know what, that’s okay too. As long as you feel at home and it’s not gross, it’s okay. That’s one thing I learned, too – you don’t have to be perfect in any way.

I am enough. Who I am is enough.
What I do is enough, and what I have is enough.

Another thing I learned is to take things not to personal, everybody is going through their own thing, sometimes their mood or what they say does not have anything to do with you. I learned to choose happiness and not just wait around for it to happen. What I mean with that is: I choose to see the positive, I choose to see the value behind what happened, bad or good. I choose to accept that life is NOT a smooth ride, that I will have bad days, that I won’t stay on my diet every single day. I accepted that life doesn’t need to be perfect and that bad things happen, usually for a reason. And that whatever I or anybody else goes through is part of life.

We can choose how we deal with it, how it affects us, what we make of it. We are the captain of our own lives, we lead the direction it is going in.

I also made the decision to completely change my lifestyle. I eat healthier, I exercise regularly, I make time for my friends and my family and I enjoy the work for college. I choose to see every task, every to-do as a journey, as an experience that further develops me and shapes me to a better person. I choose to stress myself, and I choose to take myself out of situations that are too much for me. But what I will do is, try! So many things this year a new for me in my life, these kind of things used to stress me out, but it doesn’t anymore, because I see it as a challenge that further brightens my future.

I know that all that might not seem as a self-care guideline to you, but this is what has worked for me. Like I said what works for me, might not work for you.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

Moving Out – My Experience and Tips!

Hey my loves,

Fall is a season of change, literally. But for a lot of young adults out there who are just graduating from school are facing so many new things. One of them might be moving out of their parents home.

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Moving out is scary. Trust me, I know.

But it is also one of the coolest things ever and will be something that you’ll remember, because it is such a big change in your life.

I moved out exactly two years ago and while in the beginning I might have been a little homesick, I quickly started to love living on my own. I love the freedom that comes with it, which is also one of the parts that make it the hardest. I guess, there’s a price for everything (like, you have to pay for everything, stuff you didn’t even thought about).

I’m living in my hometown and commute to work and college. It’s just way cheaper where I live than in the big city, so I gladly take the train for about two hours. I rather save money than live in a small apartment where I wouldn’t be happy, just to be closer. But everybody is different in this. I always enjoyed the quiet and landscape that comes with my home, but there are a lot of people who enjoy being closer to college and their job, which I get, especially on those days when the trains are delayed. I will move out of my hometown eventually, but for now I am enjoying the comfort of my home.

What have I learned since moving out?

Well, what haven’t I? Haha xD Just kidding, I’m learning everyday. I learned that I like a clean apartment, but that is just not always achievable. I learned that I DO NOT like washing the dishes, but a dish washer is expensive, so I have to deal with that. I learned that I love having my friends over and I love the freedom that comes with it. I don’t have to ask permission for them to come over, they just come whenever they want to. There are so many things I could list…

But most important I learned the value of self-care, appreciating what you have and that working hard for something pays off. Since I’ve moved out I tried to better myself everyday. I try to eat healthier, exercise regularly, have a schedule and be more positive and choose happiness.

Two years, in which I have grown so immensely. Two years, that have shaped me as an adult as well as a woman. If you are scared of moving out: BE IT. Because being scared or intimidated doesn’t mean that you’re weak, it means that what is coming is a big thing that will change your life and that is scary. But also, be excited. Excited for all the great things and new experiences.

My tips for you.

Move out when you’re ready. I know that sometimes that isn’t possible, but if you have the opportunity to stay home or even close to home, do it. For your own good.

Make a list. Moving out inquires a lot of planning and new things. So it is helpful to write list of what you will need to buy and need to do, like completing insurances and all that.

Save up money. Moving is expensive, and moving out of your parents house is even more expensive, because you will have to buy a lot of stuff. Always plan in a little more money than you think you will need, just to be safe. And also write down two lists: one for the necessities that you’ll need and one for things you want to have. And tick of all the things you actually need first.

Do not stress. It won’t be a smooth ride. In the first few weeks it will be hard to find your routine. It will get tricky if something has to get done and you have to deal with it. Don’t stress about it, everyone is or was at that point in some time in their life.

Socialize, but also take time for yourself. Moving out is one thing, but moving out from your parents to life on your own is such a different world. So socialize, with friends, your family or just take up a new hobby. Make sure that you’ll take on something that keeps you busy. But also take time for yourself. Self care is so important, especially when you have to deal with a lot of new things.

I hope I could give you a good inside to what moving out is like. If you have any questions or would like me to touch on a topic in more detail let me know in the comments or DM on Twitter or Instagram.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

Spending Quality Time With My Family & Myself

Hey my loves,

this past week I have been on holiday with my family in the south of Germany. And boy, oh boy, was I in need of a vacation. After writing three papers and preparing an oral exam in just under six week I was mentally exhausted. We spend six days with my family and basically did nothing but relax and we had an absolute luck with the weather – almost 30 degrees.

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Like I said, we didn’t do much, but I took the time to go on a walk by myself just to reflect on the past nine months as well as to get some me-time in. I love the nature here in south-Germany and just took it all in. Spending time with yourself is so important, at least that’s what I learned. But as I am writing this, I can’t wait to get back into things back home.

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The little towns around here are just so beautiful and colorful and especially with the amazing blue sky it looked stunning. I just love it here, although I like the quiet and the little towns, I could actually never live here, you literally have to drive everywhere and there is almost no public transportation in the smaller villages. Therefore it’s a perfect vacation spot!

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The last two weeks of September will be filled with some amazing things, but also will be quite exhausting, so to spend a little quality time with my family was definitely a big must. As well as for my own well being. I came to some realizations and also had a few ideas for my bachelor thesis, which I will probably be start writing in the early months of 2019.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.