How I Deal with Stress – An Honest Answer

Hey my loves,

a couple of weeks ago I talked about how I managed to write three papers simultaneously, as well about my personal development story, so I thought it was about time that I talk about how I deal with stress. This also comes at a time where a lot of things are happening and I am under a lot of stress.

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As I am writing this I am laying in my bed dealing with the last bits of my cold that knocked me out an entire week and has put me back with work for college a lot more than I would like. The past three, almost four, weeks haven been stressful on so many levels. About three and a half weeks ago I had a bad fall, which ended with me in a cast on my foot and pain in my arm. My doctor prescribed me rest and I took it, for three days instead of the two weeks he told me to. But I am almost healed now and do not have much pain anymore, so all is good. But that kinda just started a mountain of new stressful things. As college has started again in the beginning of October I found it hard to find a balance between eating right, taking time for myself, working out, as well as maintaining the oversight about the work I have to do for College. So instead of using my new learned tools I tumbled down a path of unhealthy choices and no-time spend for myself which ultimately led to me being irritable, in a bad mood and not taking care of myself enough. The stress level only got higher when I was not able to workout because of my fall.

Well, long story short, PMS kicked also in, harder than it had been the last six months and I was, and for most of the week, I still am a mess full of anxiety attacks and mood swings, but weirdly enough this week of being sick with the cold is turning everything around again. Last week I turned 27 and I had two of my best friends with me and we had the most fun I had in a while. We had a dance session for almost an hour and it just felt so good to feel my body and to exercise, quite frankly. But the day after, I got sick and hit with it hard. But instead of letting myself get dragged down by it even more I decided enough is enough, the moments I feel better I do something for myself. In the past two days, where I have been feeling a lot better, I even had mini dance session of ten minutes for myself. And, let me tell you, how good that felt, even though I was exhausted after it and fell straight asleep.

Now, this post is supposed to be about how I deal with stress, but the truth is: I do not know. Because every time I think I have an answer to it, something new comes up and throws me off-balance. But what I do know is that if you keep a positive attitude a lot of the things might not be as bad as they seem. And sometimes it is okay, not to be okay.

But one thing I want to make sure is that my PMS is not getting as bad next time as it was this time, and in order to do so I have to make sure to put my health, mentally and physically, first again. As soon as I am no longer sick, I will get back into a routine workout situation and as of this week I am trying to figure out a way to incorporate healthy lifestyle and food choices into my busy life again. Basically, I started WW again, just to keep myself motivated to eat healthy and to eat at all. Most of my days I simply forget or am too tired to cook or eat at all, and that’s not a lifestyle I want to live.

So I guess my tip for you would be to take it one step, one day at a time and just realize that you do not have to be on your A-game all the time that it is okay to put yourself, your health and your mental health first.

I hope you all have a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

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27 Things I learned in my Twenties

Hey my loves,

on Friday the 9th of November I turned 27 years old. So I thought why not share some things I learned in my 20s so far. I thought this would be quite fun to share with you guys, since I’m sure we all have different learning experience during our 20s.

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  1. Make Mistakes.
  2. Try everything once.
  3. You cannot please everyone.
  4. It’s okay not to be okay.
  5. Taking care of yourself is important.
  6. Being honest and open does not make you less strong.
  7. Appreciate the people in your life that care.
  8. Don’t ever stop dreaming.
  9. Don’t be afraid of new things.
  10. You can handle more than you think you can.
  11. You stronger than you think you are.
  12. Being an adult sucks, but it’s also the best time of your life.
  13. You’re never too old to have fun.
  14. It’s okay to talk about mental health.
  15. It’s okay to have an opinion.
  16. Love yourself.
  17. If there’s a will, there’s a way.
  18. Create a life you believe in.
  19. Feeling lost comes with the territory.
  20. You don’t have to have a plan for your life.
  21. Don’t care about what other people think.
  22. If you feel like giving up, don’t. You might surprise yourself.
  23. Don’t compare yourself to others.
  24. All things happen for a reason. You might not see it right away.
  25. Patience can be learned.
  26. You create your own happiness.
  27. Being single isn’t a failure.

What are some of the things you have learned? Tell me in the comments I would love to know. I hope you enjoyed today’s entry.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

How To Get The Most Out Of Your Day

Hey my loves,

in today’s entry I am going to tell you about how you can get the most of your day and accomplish all your to-do’s even if there are so much to-do that you think you will not be able to do them all in one day.

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I always get “how did you do all that?” and the answer is always the same… I did it with structure and planning. Fact is, if you are a girl boss, if you have a lot to do and do not know where to begin or even how to begin, you gotta find a way for yourself to find time and that is only possible if you plan it out, carefully and strategically.

I always start with a general to-do list to see what has to be done in the month, that includes everything I have to do with work, home and other things that concern my work and personal life. With work it’s usually looking at the different events and deciding which one’s I attend and which one’s I won’t attend and then I already know the days where I’ll have to do more. With personal to-do’s this list is pretty much on going and I do not push myself to finish them unless they have a deadline too.

But I am not only working and living my life, I also am a college student and a blogger, so that has to be planned out as well. For college I pretty much do weekly to-do list, where I include each individual course and the thing that have to be done by next week. Currently I am also preparing for an exam as well as my bachelor thesis, so I put down the weekly to-do’s for that as well. Another thing I do is to start with college work before I do anything else. The work I have to do for college is usually the most time-consuming, so I like to get that out-of-the-way as fast as possible. Also if I finish early it gives me either time to do something with my friends or to preparatory work for college, which is always great especially for those weeks where the to-do’s a long.

When it comes to my blog, I usually brain storm mid-month for the next so that I have at least 4 to 6 solid ideas I can write about. Then I usually write them all on one or two days. That is not only time-saving, but it also allows me to not worry about that. My goal at the moment is one blog entry per week, ultimately I would like to produce more content, but with everything else I have to do that is just not possible as of right now. It took me some time to realize that I cannot do it all well unless I limit things. You have to find the right balance. You do not want to overwork yourself, but you also want to show some effort in the work you do! It’s tricky, but manageable.

All in all I like to keep several to-do list, because I like to tick off things as well as be so organized. Besides handwritten to-do-list in my bullet journal for each month, I also write out on a sticky note the to-do’s for college and attach them to the week they have to be done in. As for extra work such as reading diaries or essays, I like to use my phone to set a reminder when I have to finish those. I also use my phone calendar to write down the names of the courses or other to-do’s which have to be done. That way, when I don’t have my bullet journal on hand, I know what I have to do even on the go.

That’s what I do to plan out my day. As for how I manage to get it all done is actually very simple. Getting up early and getting enough sleep is the key. Under the week I like to go to bed no later than 10 pm and that is simply because I like to get 6 to 8 hours of sleep per night and I usually have to get up very early. On the weekends, I got to bed whenever I’m tired and let my body wake me up naturally, which after a lot of hard work, is usually about 6 to 8 hours, however much sleep my body needs. That way you have a lot more hours of the day and I can, most of the time, manage to finish quite early to watch one or two episodes of my favorite tv shows. When it comes to days that I want to spend with friends I like to at least try to get an hour or two of college work or household work in, before I meet them. I just find that I do not feel as lazy if I do that.

What are your tricks to get the most out of your day? Tell me in the comments, I would love to know. I hope you found this entry helpful and if you did make sure to give it a big thumbs up and feel free to share it with your friends.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

How I Cleared My Skin

Hey my loves,

Since I can remember I am struggling with skin issues. But this year my skin has become much more radiant, healthier and I also have a lot less acne or active breakouts. Even my acne scars are starting to heal a little bitIf you want to know how I cleared my skin, keep on reading, because I am about to tell you.

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Firstly, I introduced a healthier diet into my life. I made sure to eat less processed food and also cook more with veggies and don’t eat as much of red meat and sugar. This helped with my skin enormously in the way that it cleared my skin off most of the active breakouts, since they usually appeared because of an unhealthy diet.

Then I make sure to take my makeup off EVERY SINGLE NIGHT, even if I don’t want to and am lazy, I do it. If you leave your makeup on overnight your pores will get clogged and with that breakouts are much more likely to happen especially if you have an acne prone skin, like me.

My skincare routine at night consist of the following steps:

  1. Taking my makeup off with L’Oréal Paris – Fine Flowers Cleansing Cream.
  2. Then take a makeup wipe to wipe the product off and get rid of any excess makeup. I prefer a makeup wipe, because I would have to use a new cloth every single evening, because I found out that even with cleaning the cloth with hot water and soap it still had some product left and that leads to me having breakouts.
  3. I then go ahead and clean my skin with the L’Oréal Paris – Fine Flowers Gel Cream Wash.
  4. Then I just clean my skin with hot and cold water, always in an upward motion.
  5. To moisturize I use two products:The Ordinary –100% Organic Cold-Pressed Moroccan Argan Oil: about 5 drops.

Another thing I introduced into my everyday life was days without makeup. I used to wear makeup even when I was just running errands, I now don’t do that anymore. Simply to give my skin a little break and to breathe. I also make sure to get at least seven hours of sleep at night, so that my body and skin has enough time to rejoice itself. Last but not least, I doubled my water intake and take b12-vitamins.

What are some of your tips and tricks of clearing your skin? What has worked for you? I would love to know. I hope that this entry gave you a little insight into my routine and maybe some of my tricks will help you too.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

How I Dealt With Stress While Writing 3 Papers Simultaneously

Hey my loves,

Last week I talked about my personal development story so I thought it would only be fitting to talk about how I deal with stress in a little bit more detail and especially focus on how I managed to write three papers simultaneously and prepare an oral exam.

Now the ideal procedure is to write one paper after the other and have about two months to finish each of them. Well, I didn’t have that pleasure, I had to write them simultaneously and two of them actually had their due date in the same week. But I managed to do them, and I actually did pretty good.

And here’s how I did it.

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I made an individual plan to follow for each of the papers, as well as one for the oral exam. The only thing I didn’t to is set myself due dates for certain aspects, because I, for myself, know that it does not work for me. And, because usually you have at least two or three problems with the paper – may it be just phrasing problem or a blockade.

Here’s what I did before I enrolled my papers:

  • I discussed with my lecturers possible topics and then I researched it.
  • I compiled a list of literature that I wanted to check out and then I actually went into the library and copied anything that was remotely connected to my thesis.
  • After reading all of the secondary literature I wrote out the citations on my computer and then organized them after the sub-topics. That way it was easier for me to keep an overview of the citations.

I did these steps for all four exams. And then I enrolled my papers, the enroll-time for the oral exam is only four weeks before the date.

Here’s what I did after enrolling:

  • I made sure to only work on one paper on a day. This meant that I wouldn’t have as much time as I should have, but allowed me to have a better overview of my work.
  • I also made sure to spend some quality offline. Meaning I spent time with friends or family that gave me enough space to never feel burned out. I feel like the time I spent with them or went into the gym gave me the needed energy.
  • I am a person who works and does not like to stop until a certain thing is achieved. So on the day I was working on a paper I set myself mini goals, approximately so far apart that I could take a break for lunch and be finished around dinner time. That way I was able to finish two to four sub-items each day, sometimes more, sometimes less.
  • I also made sure to write with the correct formalities, so that I would not have to alter them after I was done. Furthermore, I made sure to write down every secondary literature into my bibliography as soon as I used one. Also in the correct and asked for formality.

I also had a friend proofread for me, which was super helpful, because most of the time after writing so much, you don’t see your own mistakes anymore.

Here’s how I dealt with the stress:

  • As I said I made sure to spend quality time offline with friends and family.
  • In also liked working out on the days I worked on my papers or go for a walk just so I get a little bit of exercise that day.
  • Furthermore I made sure to eat good and healthy meals, so my brain was fueled with energy and had the tools to work in overtime.
  • I also made sure to never work longer than 9 pm. So that I had enough time to switch off my brain and have some me-time before bed.

I hope that this gave you a good insight on how I deal with stress especially in regards to College time management and stressful finals time.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.

My Personal Development Story

Hey my loves,

Last week I talked about my final year of College and mentioned my personal development story. I thought I would touch on that a little more and tell you what I mean with that. 

This year has been a year of change for me. I do not even know where I should start, but I guess I start with the beginning.

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I always said that I felt comfortable in my skin and while to a certain degree that was true it changed in the last three years. I was getting to a point where life just seemed to throw bigger and bigger rocks at me. And last year towards the end of it, I decided that it is enough.

I didn’t want to live in a world where I felt displaced and out of order yet alone not in control and I started to look what I can change and I found myself at a mountain of possibilities. So instead of changing my surroundings or dive into something that I would not have been able to do, I decided in order to better my life: I HAVE TO BETTER MYSELF FIRST.

So I did, am still doing.

I decided that I would start with seeing everything as a challenge that I can do, instead of letting myself be muffled by anxious feelings. It was hard at first and to some degree still is, so I would say it’s a work in progress. Everything that was thrown at me I started to handle with these thoughts in my mind:

Will it affect my life in two years?

If it does not matter in two years, why make a big scene? Just accept that something is going wrong or not going the way you imagined it to be. Learn that not everything is in your control.

Will it matter next week? Next month? Next year?

This is basically the same thing as I said before, but in a short period of time. Is it just bad right now? Or will it be bad for a longer time? What can I change? How should I deal with it?

What can I do to make the situation more comfortable for me?

Obviously this won’t make everything go away, but I have found that talking about why I am uncomfortable or that I do not wish to do a certain things is more likely to be accepted by my friends/family than I ever thought. Just be honest to yourself and to the people in your life. They won’t judge you for what you’re feeling, even if they don’t understand it.

What can I change about it that I can do right now?

Is there a way that I can change the situation and if so what do I have to do to make a change? Should I maybe start with myself? Or does the problem lie somewhere else?

While early on in my life I would have had a freak-out or a desperate crying session I now surround myself with tools to handle these types of situations. Sometimes a big old breathing in session is all you need, trust me. Just give yourself a couple of seconds to think about it, to let it sink in. It might not seem as bad a couple of minutes later.

Another thing I changed in myself is my body.

And that started with my mind. While I’ve always been comfortable in my skin, I always felt like an outsider simply because of my weight. But here’s the thing, if you don’t care about it, it’s more likely that everybody else won’t care about it either. What I mean with that is, I let myself be strung back by my weight, I pushed myself down and had thoughts like “Well they wouldn’t like me anyway!” or “Nobody that looks like me would do that”.
So I changed my mindset, I told myself:

Your weight does not define the person you are. You do.

Your weight is not holding you back. You are.

And I tried to figure out what I can do to change my thinking. And for me it was pretty clear that in order to change my thinking I have to lose some weight, because, truth be told, I did not feel comfortable in my skin anymore. In order to lose the weight, in a healthy and continuous way, I had to change my lifestyle. I want to be as healthy as I can. I have not set myself a goal weight, because I believe that the number on the scale should not define the way you feel. I don’t count calories or follow a diet or at least no longer. But that is a story for another time. Instead, I am going to the gym and portion control my food and I chose healthier options.

My body has changed, my mind has changed.

I’ve lost over 20 pounds so far. I am proud of my achievement, but what I am more proud of is that I managed to stay on track, that even though some day might not be a good and healthy day, that as long as I am active and live 80 percent of my time healthy that it was okay. I am a happier, more confident and a more positive person: and I did that.

I got a job beside my studies, I can barely sit still and I do much more with my friends than before. I pulled myself out of hole and plastered it up. And I am still working on it, on me. I have so many more things I want to do to change my life around, but I will do it one step at a time. For now, what I am doing is working and in a year’s time, who knows where I’ll be at.

I hope I could give you somewhat of a good insight into my personal development story. If you have any question, feel free to ask them in the comments or DM me on Instagram or Twitter. You’re also more than welcome to shoot me an Email if you prefer that.

I wish you all a wonderful day!

XoXo, Jasmin.