“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” ~ Thomas A. Edison
Hey my loves,
Trying to be yourself in today’s society is hard. You try to fit in and you try hard. But at the end of the day, fitting in does not always mean that you are who you can be and who you want to be. But still, a lot of us pretend everyday. I try very hard not to. I accepted myself as who I am a long time ago. If you don’t know me and if I don’t know you, I am shy, polite and happy. But when we’re becoming friends: I am loud, crazy and I would like to say somewhat funny. To be this and to be that does not mean I pretend, I am just very cautious around new people, I don’t want to get hurt. And I feel like I am not alone in this. No one wants to get hurt, that’s probably one of the reasons why we pretend. We are anxious that the person we just met or even those who know us, are not going to like our “real” selfs. But what does even “real” mean? I am not sure about that, because I change every single day. Every day, every decision I make and everything that happens in a moment in my life changes me. It might just change my opinion or maybe it changes my whole world view. But that’s how it is. Time changes you. But you got to decide that, you know, if you want the change to change yourself. I certainly think about that a lot, but I also stay positive about it.
“Courage is not the absence of fear,but rather the realization that something else is more important than fear.The braves may not live forever,but the cautious do not live at all.” ~ Princess Diaries
I kind of believe that there is a higher power who controls our fate. But still I know, that I also control my own fate. Yeah, now that’s confusing, right? But that’s how it is. YOU at first can control it. Especially if you decide to pretend. But here’s advice from me: Be what you want to be? If you want to be a pretender be, if you want to be your true self, be! At the end of the day you have to ask yourself: Are you happy? If the answers is no, the only person that can change it is YOURSELF.
“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions.” ~ Dalai Lama
And also don’t be afraid to show your true self. Be proud of who you are! Don’t pretend for another one’s happiness, care about your own. If you’re not happy, you cannot make others happy. It may work for a short while, but in the end it won’t work. If you feel like you can’t break out of your shell, than don’t. You need to feel confident about breaking out, out of that shell that you and the society build around you. But sometimes trying is a good start!
Here is one of my favorite quotes:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” ~ Marianne Williamson
I wish you all a wonderful start in your week!
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” ~ Nelson Mandela